How to confront people, lowkenuinely
Why It Matters?
Avoiding feedback doesn’t fix the problem. Whether it’s a group project, a workplace issue, or a simple misunderstanding, thoughtful feedback helps things improve. When you pause, prepare, and focus on solutions, you build confidence and stronger relationships. Speaking up is self-advocacy. Doing it thoughtfully makes all the difference.
How do I Use the Principles for Learning?
Pause before responding. Don’t react in the moment. Give yourself time to think about what outcome you actually want.
Focus on the future. Frame feedback around what can change or improve instead of what went wrong.
Use constructive language. Instead of informal communication, try phrases like “I noticed…” or “Can we try…”
Suggest a solution. If a group keeps missing deadlines, propose weekly check-ins or clearer roles.
Keep it respectful and specific. Clear examples help people understand your point without feeling attacked.
Try This:
- Rewrite one frustrating situation using “I noticed…” or “Can we…” language.
- Before your next tough conversation, write down the outcome you want and one solution to suggest
Recommended Resources:
- ASU Student Success Center - https://studentsuccess.asu.edu/communication
- ASU Counseling Services - https://eoss.asu.edu/counseling
- ASU Career & Professional Development Services- https://career.asu.edu/
- ASU Leadership & Service - https://leadershipandservice.asu.edu/